We grant people the luxury of expectation, to feel that we have given someone a certain amount of trust. We can expect a friend to be there for us, but they may end up being nowhere in sight. Or we can expect a significant other to be loving and honest, but they may end up being hurtful and untrustworthy. The thing about expectations is that it comes with a level of disappointment.
Friendship is one of the few necessities of life that we are able to choose. Once we meet great people, we give them the label of “friend!” With this label, comes the expectation of a friend in return: honesty, loyalty, and communication…at the minimum. The greatest friends are those who see good below the skin rather than what is on the surface; those who lift our spirits, rather than boast our egos; and those who show up when needed, rather than flee when wanted.
So, once we meet that one person that fits our “golden” qualities of friendship, we give them the label of “best friend.” It is that one person, that without them, our lives would be so different. We lean on that person when times go rough, or when we want a secret locked up. It is that person that we go to for valuable advice, or that person that will always be there no matter what.
Some people choose to take their friendship onto another level. Trust and communication is key. Without that, there is no relationship! The hardest part of a relationship is committing; giving your all into something you feel is right, and compromising; letting your pride down enough to work through the hardships.
But in all levels, trust is something that is earned through actions, not granted by words. We give these people in our lives certain expectations to fill, to be the friend we may want them to be. The problem with expectation is that certain people may not fill them, which causes disappointment, and then an untrusting relationship. Friendship is a process, a two-way street, which involves time and effort…
Sadly, we grant some people the luxury of expectation, to feel that we have given someone a certain amount of trust. But they may end up being nowhere in sight, or may end up being hurtful and untrustworthy. The thing about expectations is that it comes with a level of disappointment. Only certain people are given the luxury of trust; and when they do not follow through, they should be given the responsibility of repair.
Always remember to be the change you wish to see in the world…